艾合买提 西安电子科技大学

                                       Ms Right VS Ms OK

Yesterday, I received a phone call from my mum and she told me either I find a suitable girlfriend within one year, or she would find one for me.

Ladies and Gentlemen: How can I find the person I am dreaming of, the one I hope is perfect for me on such a timetable? Finding true love needs more time, and is unpredictable. Do I give up the hope of real passion, real love and succumb to this pressure?

Sadly, many of my friends have submitted to this pressure to marry ‘Ms OK’ rather than wait for ‘Ms Right’.
 
The pressure to marry has two facets.  Firstly, the need to marry before a certain age, and secondly, the need to marry someone with money.

When we talk about getting married, we are concerned about the age problem. Education has already pushed our age to the traditional deadline considered suitable for marriage, so to marry ‘on time’ we must hurry our choice. Under this pressure the majority of us will give up our search for our ideal Ms Right and agree to marry Ms OK - at the cost of real love and passion.

Today we are encouraged to undertake higher education.  When I finish my studies and start a job, I will be at that ‘critical’ age.  But, Ladies and Gentlemen – I will not be in a position to marry.  I will have a career to build, long hours to work, and perhaps more studies to do. This will make my readiness for marriage even further away.  It is time to banish the conventional concept that we should marry at a certain age.

The second pressure for marriage is that of marrying someone with money. It is not that hard to imagine that money is the basis of marriage for many couples. Today we regard marrying a person with a large fortune as a wonderful opportunity and we will be seen as very happy.  If we marry someone with no money, or poor job prospects, we are seen as unlucky, and it is a mistake in others’ eyes. But… is money the basis of an ideal marriage? That is the question we all should think about. We, as a loving couple, can earn money after marriage, but we cannot sustain a marriage based on money after a bankruptcy. Marriage should be a passion for love rather than a passion for money.

Today, we are pressured to choose a partner firstly, on an outdated life timetable, and secondly, to choose someone with money or good job prospects. We somehow neglected our real passion, the happiness, strength and support we can find in a loving marriage. Our difficult dilemma is - Ms OK or Ms Right. Ladies and Gentlemen, I do not want to succumb to these pressures. I don’t want to be in trouble when Ms Right appears if I am pressured to choose Ms OK within one year. Next time my mum asks me, I will be saying “I am waiting for Ms Right!”  I am choosing passion over pressure. So, what will your choice be? Ms OK or Ms Right?